What are your guy’s thoughts during sex? Do you feel the same as I do when I’m in bed with my boyfriend? When he’s right there next to me, do I feel like he has more on his mind than me? Are his thoughts all that matter during sex?
Well, the answer to that is a definite YES! For most men, there are many things going on in their head while they’re having sex. But there are some things that you can change if you want to make your sex life better.
First, it’s a good idea to be ready and willing to handle any emotional roller coaster that goes along with sex. Just because he might seem to be getting more into the moment and loving your attention doesn’t mean he’s actually feeling the same way about you.
So, you need to think about how much you need him during good sex. When you’re in the heat of the moment, you tend to focus on his pleasure and the satisfaction you get from it. But, that can actually lead to the two of you falling into the same patterns that cause so much friction during sex.
Focus on the things that he wants to do to you. Ask yourself if he really needs you during that moment. If he doesn’t, try asking yourself if he wants you to get what you need.
Keep your eyes open, though. If you start to become overly focused on what you’re feeling or what he’s feeling, your partner will find you very boring and will begin to withdraw further from you.
As you begin to explore these thoughts together, it’ll get easier and you’ll begin to learn the “learning curves” to some of these issues. For example, if he seems to be caught up in himself, spend some time telling him about all the things that he doesn’t want to do. Give him the praise he deserves – your praise!
And be careful to avoid words like “you”I” in those conversations – instead, use certain words like “your”. Be sure to remember that you’re the one he should be paying attention to!
Also, take time to enjoy the physical sensations of sex. There’s nothing wrong with enjoying yourself if he isn’t completely into it. You don’t have to wait for him to ask for a change – you’ll know if he does!
He might also tell you to slow down when it comes to certain things. No matter what, be ready to try the things that might turn him on. It might take some time, but you can’t force him to like something he doesn’t want to do.
Take the time to enjoy those physical pleasures that make you feel so amazing during sex. Try out new positions or use your hands to stimulate his body. Let him enjoy the intimacy and satisfaction that your intimate time gives him, because he does too.
Keep these tips in mind the next time you’re ready to make your man feel closer to you. If you use these suggestions, you’ll find that it gets easier to make him feel closer to you and he’ll begin to do the same for you.